I am taking part of a
Marriage Challenge for the next 4 weeks and I hope that I can keep it up for
the next 40 years! This Challenge would have been very hard for me less than a
few months ago, well maybe even a few weeks ago. I have a hard time not being the
one that is always correct, and my husband has to live around that. I told
myself a few months ago that this has to stop why would he want to be
around such a controlling wife. I don't tell him what to do but I do like to get my way, I know this is not the correct way to live in a marriage.
“The
wise woman builds her house,
but
with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”
~Proverbs 14:1
I am married to the
nicest man any women could ask for. He gives everything to be with us, when
he's home he does everything to help us. He cooks, cleans, schools he'll do
about anything so I can have a break and time to myself.
Way have I allowed
the devil to take over my thoughts for so long! You know until I humbled myself
before God for all my actions nothing changed. I knew I had to take a stand
against all the evil thoughts that Satan had put in my heart and in my mind.
He's good at that! He would love nothing more than for us women to do the
opposite of what we are told by our father in heaven!
Well I said that's it
no more not me!! Which I have to say is much harder than it sounds; I have
never been good at biting my tongue.
It's hard to say were
sorry even if we know that the fight was not our fault, and even harder for
some us to allow our husband to take control of the family. We live in a world
that tells us all the time that a woman can be just like a man and do it even
better. No wonder we have so many marriages falling apart. We turn to people
when what we should have been doing is turning to our Bibles and God.
I have noticed a lot
of changes since I allowed God to control my life. My Marriage is better for it
and my children see it. I am happy really happy!!! Oh, how I wished I would
have done this years ago!!
We will still have
fights, but my goal is to not even have them!! My husband is my lover, my best
friend, and my partner in life. He was given to me from God!! I know some women
who wish they could have what I do. As I have been told 1oo times before, "your
Husband is a keeper, hold on to him" guess what I plan to do just that!
This is what Courtney said, and she worded
it perfectly so I pasted it below. I know that this will be hard for some of
you but listen to her words.
Others
may have decided this was not for you. Maybe your marriage is struggling, your
husband is being annoying, you are in the midst of a fight or you’ve grown
distant from your husband. Maybe it’s REALLY hard to even think of one nice
thing to say.
These challenges really are challenges for
you.
Would you consider just trying a little bit,
to do a little something this week just to see what God will do through your
willingness to go first and bless your husband? I am praying as you take the
initiative, that God will strengthen you and bless your marriage through you!
Week 1 Challenge - Take the
Initiative!Look for ways to praise your husband verbally.
Praise
him in front of the kids, friends, family, co-workers, on facebook, tweet it –
get praise out anyway you can! Try to mention something noteworthy he has done
– in his role as provider, father, husband, lover, or friend. If the thought of
trying to come up with one terrifies you, then pray right now that God will
give you new eyes to see your husband as God does. Then open your mouth and say
something kind and uplifting to your husband today and tomorrow and the next day
until Valentine’s Day arrives!
What do you think will you give it a try? I am telling you it just makes peace
in your soul, you will sleep better and be much happier. Always turn to God he
hears you, he loves you and he never leaves you!
Here are some ways to
tell your husband he is special-
1.
Text
him sweet messages letting him know how loved he is and how much you appreciate
him.
2.
Leave
Love notes in his Car or in his lunch bag
3.
Make
him coffee in the morning and start his car making sure you tell him how grateful
you are that he works hard for his family.
4.
Email
him to tell him you love him and how grateful you are for him
5.
Praise
him in front of your children
6.
Be
by the door when he comes home to plant a big kiss on him!
7.
When
out and about tell him how much you are grateful for him (maybe even in the checkout
line at the store).
Remember try to do
this every day until Valentine’s Day. I know this might be hard for some of you
but just take baby steps. Do the best you can, something is always better than
nothing.
I encourage you this
week and ask you to please join me over at
Pamela
