Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Be My Valentine ~ Week 1 – Take the Initiative

I am taking part of a Marriage Challenge for the next 4 weeks and I hope that I can keep it up for the next 40 years! This Challenge would have been very hard for me less than a few months ago, well maybe even a few weeks ago. I have a hard time not being the one that is always correct, and my husband has to live around that. I told myself a few months ago that this has to stop why would he want to be around such a controlling wife.  I don't tell him what to do but I do like to get my way, I know this is not the correct way to live in a marriage.

“The wise woman builds her house,
but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”
~Proverbs 14:1

I am married to the nicest man any women could ask for. He gives everything to be with us, when he's home he does everything to help us. He cooks, cleans, schools he'll do about anything so I can have a break and time to myself.

Way have I allowed the devil to take over my thoughts for so long! You know until I humbled myself before God for all my actions nothing changed. I knew I had to take a stand against all the evil thoughts that Satan had put in my heart and in my mind. He's good at that! He would love nothing more than for us women to do the opposite of what we are told by our father in heaven!

Well I said that's it no more not me!! Which I have to say is much harder than it sounds; I have never been good at biting my tongue.

It's hard to say were sorry even if we know that the fight was not our fault, and even harder for some us to allow our husband to take control of the family. We live in a world that tells us all the time that a woman can be just like a man and do it even better. No wonder we have so many marriages falling apart. We turn to people when what we should have been doing is turning to our Bibles and God.

I have noticed a lot of changes since I allowed God to control my life. My Marriage is better for it and my children see it. I am happy really happy!!! Oh, how I wished I would have done this years ago!!

We will still have fights, but my goal is to not even have them!! My husband is my lover, my best friend, and my partner in life. He was given to me from God!! I know some women who wish they could have what I do. As I have been told 1oo times before, "your Husband is a keeper, hold on to him" guess what I plan to do just that!

This is what Courtney said, and she worded it perfectly so I pasted it below. I know that this will be hard for some of you but listen to her words.

And so we come to week one’s “Be My Valentine” Marriage Challenge. Some of you jumped on board quickly and are ready to do this but others…

Others may have decided this was not for you. Maybe your marriage is struggling, your husband is being annoying, you are in the midst of a fight or you’ve grown distant from your husband. Maybe it’s REALLY hard to even think of one nice thing to say.
These challenges really are challenges for you.
Would you consider just trying a little bit, to do a little something this week just to see what God will do through your willingness to go first and bless your husband? I am praying as you take the initiative, that God will strengthen you and bless your marriage through you!

Week 1 Challenge - Take the Initiative!Look for ways to praise your husband verbally.

Praise him in front of the kids, friends, family, co-workers, on facebook, tweet it – get praise out anyway you can! Try to mention something noteworthy he has done – in his role as provider, father, husband, lover, or friend. If the thought of trying to come up with one terrifies you, then pray right now that God will give you new eyes to see your husband as God does. Then open your mouth and say something kind and uplifting to your husband today and tomorrow and the next day until Valentine’s Day arrives!

What do you think will you give it a try? I am telling you it just makes peace in your soul, you will sleep better and be much happier. Always turn to God he hears you, he loves you and he never leaves you!

Here are some ways to tell your husband he is special-

1.      Text him sweet messages letting him know how loved he is and how much you appreciate him.

2.      Leave Love notes in his Car or in his lunch bag

3.      Make him coffee in the morning and start his car making sure you tell him how grateful you are that he works hard for his family.

4.      Email him to tell him you love him and how grateful you are for him

5.      Praise him in front of your children

6.      Be by the door when he comes home to plant a big kiss on him!

7.      When out and about tell him how much you are grateful for him (maybe even in the checkout line at the store).

Remember try to do this every day until Valentine’s Day. I know this might be hard for some of you but just take baby steps. Do the best you can, something is always better than nothing.

I encourage you this week and ask you to please join me over at




Gardenia said...

thaks for this inspiration, Pamela. i just texted my husband a little love note!

The Proverbs 31 Sanctuary said...

What a great post, I love Courtney's challenged. Stopping by from Far Above Rubies Link Up. Have a blessed day. Tara.

Pamela said...


I am sure he loved it!

Pamela said...


Thanks so much for your comment,
Courtney's Challenge is going to be great!

Welcome to Created to Mother I hope you visit again soon.